Awesome Impact Award

“The Awesome Impact Award was created by Da Rad Gamer – If you are not yet familiar with their blog, please do take the time to check it out.  They post quotes, motivational inspirations, and tips on doing well in class.  Give it a go!

The Rules

Tag the person who nominated you.

Take “The Awesome Impact Award” Picture and add that in your post.

Talk about an incident that impacted your life in a really positive way.

Nominate 10 other awesome bloggers for this award

Thank You

A great big thank you to Rory at A Guy Called Bloke and K9 Doodlepip for this nomination. I’m always honored anytime this guy mentions me!  If you don’t know his site….pffft. What am I saying???  Everyone should know his site!!  But in case you are brand new and stumbled over me first, you MUST go see all the many things he writes about.  He writes poetry, and challenges, and games, and throwback remember who and when kinds of things. You will always be entertained!  Thank you again Rory!!  You’re the best!!

Impact

I’ve already talked about my old boss’s impact on my career.  This time I’ll choose something more current, meeting French Charming.

Yes, my whole blog is about how we met, the bad relationships leading up to meeting him, the adventures we’ve had in creating a life together but yet an ocean apart.

What I haven’t mentioned is how much meeting him had an impact on me personally. Obviously I was still searching for love and “the one” when I finally met him.  And obviously finding your true love is enough to change your life because you’ve finally found happiness.  But beyond finding love and being happy, certain people coming into your life can have an impact on who you become, good or bad.

I believe that before meeting him, I tried to make men fit into the definition of what I thought was the perfect man for me.  I would find someone who maybe possessed a quality or two I was looking for and then spend the rest of my time trying to mold, shape, and force them to be exactly what I wanted.  I found myself constantly disappointed  or annoyed with them.  I tolerated things that I shouldn’t.  I would stay in the relationship longer than I should because I didn’t want to fail or give up.  I refused to accept the fact that you just can’t make people be someone they aren’t.

With age comes wisdom.  I kept searching but I got better at seeing the signs and red flags that someone wasn’t a good fit for me.  I was quicker to let go of relationships that would not work without the sense of failure.

When I met French Charming online and starting texting regularly, I knew I had found a lifelong friend at the very least. We were able to talk for hours! Being in different continents separated by an ocean there wasn’t much else we could do.  In fact, we knew each other so well from a distance that I was afraid meeting him in person might ruin that.

I wrote about our first meeting and our first kiss, and how the chemistry was instantaneous.  What I didn’t realize at first was that I wasn’t trying to control him or change him.  There was nothing I needed to change!

I’m not saying that he’s perfect or that we have never had a disagreement, but for the first time ever in a relationship, I was relaxed.  Now, don’t think relaxed = lazy. Relationships are work, especially long distance relationships.  This time, however, the work doesn’t feel like work.

Falling in love with French Charming allowed me to let go of trying to control everything about a relationship.  He has given me a sense of calmness which has allowed me to fully become the person I’ve always wanted to be.

Thank you French Charming!

My Nominees

3CStyle

Novus Lectio

Floatinggold

(Not doing 10, I still have more awards to catch up on)

*I always say:  You are not obligated to participate.  At the very least just know I wanted to give you and your blog some respect!

XOXO

KKatch